love in times of Ramadhan..

it was in the month of Ramadhan where i met my very first love....
Miss X..
this coming Ramadhan will be the 9th years since the very first time i fell in love with her...
People said..if u want a great future, look back and learn....and look in front and learn..
so.. i decided to look back to the time when i first fell in love with a girl..i want to know why i fell for her at the first place , why i left her or she left me and what lesson that i can learn from these events of the past???
today, 24th of Syaaban..6 more days before Ramadhan starts, i will share with you my story:

i was 15 that time..and the love i felt for her was very childish but yet a strong one.. the love is so strong till i even make a drastic change in my life.. changes that i never think i could do at that time..but it happen and believe me..it work..i became a motivated person..from the last in class shifted to top ten in class...this was an example of the power of love..
well my mother also gain her strength from her love for her children...so ...
the question that runs through my brain now is why i fell for Miss X ???
to think about it again and again..the reasons are::

1. i am a male
2. i was a kid
3.she was the only female friend that i have that time
4. i wanted to be loved and to love
5. it makes me happy that i can improve myself..
6. it was at the peak of teenage life ..
7. i was afraid of not getting any girlfriend in the future..i even thought that this was the only chance i had to get a girlfriend.
8. after seeing the improvement over my exams result and my appearance, my mum support my action , that was to fall in love with a girl..
9. her voice was soft and she was a good girl
10.i'm just a kid that time..my justification for love was very shortsighted...


so why it did not work out between me and Miss X???


1. i grew up
2. i am a male
3.i gained confident in myself ..i feel like i am ready to find another girl
4.she did not like me anymore
5. she wanted to be with someone else
6.i fed up with her
7.i listen to Nirvana which promote grunge in my life..
8. i became aware of other important things in life other than a woman..yup..things like hobby, ambitions, future planning, jobs and education....and most importantly money...
9. i realized the fact that females are more in number than males..so why should i scared?? sooner or later i will have one, two , three or four of my dream girls..
10. i realized the fact that u will not get a chick unless u have something to offer to them in return..so i work on my maturity, on my understanding of female behaviour and how to impress people..
11. i now have more than just 1 female friends..so i understand them even better now..
12.i was scared that she just wanted to play with me..
13. i was not ready to love and be loved.
15. she was not beautiful anymore..because i met other girls that more beautiful than her..

well thats it ..15 is enough to make it possible to break a relationship..
so what can i learn from the above analysis??and make it a good input for my current relationship with my curent girlfreind????here are my answer..feel free to disagree:--

1. Never fall in love with someone else when u are already in a relationship..otherwise it will make things complicated..i know man..God created man with the ability to love a girl and retain that love for that girl while at the same time they can still love other girls..which i think is the most vital nature of man that any woman can't change that..at the very least ..this is only my opinion..but all of my male friends agree with me upon this....

2. Make friends with different gender but never take the advantage of the gender differences..because when u see the advantage ..it will open the doors to a complicated relationship..

3.if u do fall for other girls other than ur girlfriend ..well quickly rationalise the situation..stop dreaming..try to look at her point of view..the girl u fall for and ur girlfriend's view..it will help them understand the situation better..go talk to other person with high reputation, dignity and morale..never seek advice from the devil..for the devil will bring you to the wrong path..

4. even if the feeling is so irresistable..try to at least throw it away from your heart little by little..that's what i do now...

5. instead of listening to Nirvana, try Foofighters..the Foos' lyrics are more motivating that the other one..

6. be friends with different gender for other purpose..not love..i know i said it before..but this time it is to remind my self that i should not do this..so do you..!!

7. dont be affraid to love because a person with no love will be a total weirdo ..

8. its not who we are or who our couple will be..it is us (you and your couple) that create a long lasting relationship TO-GET-HER or TOGETHER.....if a relationship is about to break..its not because of it is destined to break..it because the couples do not want to work together to ensure their everlasting relationship..

K.A.K signning off..

PS: i love everyone in this world..even if they dont love me back! hahahahahah!