Between others' recognition & Appreciation to others.

I would begin this post by saying thank you as a sign of appreciation to whoever you are that reading this. When you have time to read this, that makes me want to say thank you, because of the time you've spent to read this piece of my writing.

 How do people recognize themselves? How do they think people recognize them everyday? How do people react to others?  How well do they think others will like them? these are the questions about others' recognition & appreciation to others.

Recently, I've read a friend's status on FB saying that it is waste of resources when a boy friend, spent his money to buy presents for his girlfriend. He thinks its a waste of time to buy presents to a girlfriend as a sign of love, instead he suggested that a man needs to leave his girlfriend & find a new one if they are not behaving well.  This status of his, makes me think of two things, the first one is others' recognition and the other one is appreciation to others.

I believe that these two things, are complementary to each other. It is like a ying yang. The more you appreciate people, the more they will recognize you wholeheartedly. People are dyeing to get other people to recognize them. They want people to accept them the way they are.They refuse to change anything about themselves until  they do not realize, because of their refusal to change, they might accidentally forcing others to change just so that they can remain as the way they are. This is immature attitude, and far from being a person that stick to his Principe  If you want people to recognize you, be it whether you like it or not, there MUST be a mutual effort between you and others to compromise with each other. 

So let's come back to my friend's status just now, what's wrong with buying a girlfriend a present? what's wrong with showing the appreciation by giving present to the one you love? For without the girlfriend, there's no one to share the happiness, love and sadness with the boyfriend. So what's wrong with giving forgiveness and communicate what's right & wrong? What's wrong with changing a bit for that change could bring a smile at someone's face?

 I think, in my humble opinion, the more you get the love from your girlfriend, the more you should appreciate her. Unless, she refuse to change, and only takes everything from you and not giving you anything at all, then you may have to consider letting her go. I'm not just talking about a love relationship. I'm talking about more, about general relationship with others. To me it is unfair to treat a person based on ourselves only, we should considers others feeling and emotion when we want to do something. Well, it is just a thought from me. You have the right to disagree.